How to heal from “People Pleasing”
“People pleasers” are often wonderfully kind, empathic and attuned human beings. However, when we overuse these skills, we can feel lost, stretched thin, and anxious. When we engage in “people pleasing” we merge with the needs/wishes/desires of others, at the cost of our own well being, in order to feel safer. Learn to feel more secure, confident and happier when relating to others.
Why you might not want to come for a session…
It’s true, most people wait until they are really struggling to call me, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, sometimes, there is a hesitation or procrastination, that stops people from reaching out sooner. I often ask clients what made them reach out now, and what stopped them from calling sooner? Here are the reasons I hear the…
Kind Thoughts Journal
We often feel completely powerless when it comes to our thoughts. We try to stop them, push them away, or argue with them. This journal page will help you feel more balanced & joyful, in the face of life’s challenges.
How to Take Responsibility for Mistakes, without the beat up
Women often fear that being kind to themselves will make them less competent, less responsible and weak. learn self-talk statements & strategies that help “ease up on the beat up”, while learning from our mistakes:
Quieting the Inner Critic
We all have an inner critic that makes us second guess ourselves. The critic questions the value of what we do, picks at the smallest things, makes us feel unworthy, anxious or sometimes obsessive. It compares us to others or to an impossible ideal. No human can ever meet the impossible standards the critic imposes. We know this logically, but how do we…
How to Keep Promises to Yourself
When we decide to make a promise to ourselves, everything else can seem more important or even more interesting. Maybe the guilt monster takes over! Unfortunately, it can be so tempting to get stuck in a pattern of dropping our needs – it becomes easier to just give up over time. Learn how to keep your important promises to yourself.
4 Questions to improve communication with your partner
Couples sometimes find themselves in a communication pattern that keeps them in their “comfort zones” such as with drawl or a perpetual state of pursuing their partner. Learn 4 simple questions to for improving communication & closeness (instead of blaming or fixing each other) Focus on concrete, observable behaviours, instead of vague/unspoken demands or criticisms.