Posts by Nelia DeAmaral

“People pleasers” are often wonderfully kind, empathic and attuned human beings. However, when we overuse these skills, we can feel lost, stretched thin, and anxious. When we engage in “people pleasing” we merge with the needs/wishes/desires of others, at the cost of our own well being, in order to feel safer. Learn to feel more secure, confident and happier when relating to others.

We often feel completely powerless when it comes to our thoughts. We try to stop them, push them away, or argue with them. This journal page will help you feel more balanced & joyful, in the face of life’s challenges.

Women often fear that being kind to themselves will make them less competent, less responsible and weak. learn self-talk statements & strategies that help “ease up on the beat up”, while learning from our mistakes:

We all have an inner critic that makes us second guess ourselves. The critic questions the value of what we do, picks at the smallest things, makes us feel unworthy, anxious or sometimes obsessive. It compares us to others or to an impossible ideal. No human can ever meet the impossible standards the critic imposes. We know this logically, but how do we…

When we decide to make a promise to ourselves, everything else can seem more important or even more interesting. Maybe the guilt monster takes over! Unfortunately, it can be so tempting to get stuck in a pattern of dropping our needs – it becomes easier to just give up over time. Learn how to keep your important promises to yourself.

Couples sometimes find themselves in a communication pattern that keeps them in their “comfort zones” such as with drawl or a perpetual state of pursuing their partner. Learn 4 simple questions to for improving communication & closeness (instead of blaming or fixing each other) Focus on concrete, observable behaviours, instead of vague/unspoken demands or criticisms.

Mom Guilt: 5 “good mom” rules I had to break to be a better mom.

Self-care can feel like another thing to do, especially for busy mothers. It’s is more than just slicing a tiny sliver of time in your already overflowing life. It’s a mindset that helps us overcome feelings of guilt, worry, & unworthiness.